Herd Psychology: Part-I: Aur kisi ko chahiye, Impreson ?

Ever observed a person’s attitude in group vs. when he is alone?

There will be a difference in attitude, for some especially the difference is wider. The presence of a group controls the behavior of oneself.Have you ever wondered, why?

Lets discuss the factors one by one: Impreson

Beyond all the needs, the most basic need of a human brain is “to get everyone impressed by me”. Impreson is the electricity for our “silica”, even the most smallest action is done in the anticipation of an comment which can create an impreson. Every individual has his/her own way of creating an impreson.

Some people crack jokes always, some will ask questions even when its not necessary, some people argue, some people struggle give the latest news first,

For Eg: Last week i went to a photo shoot in my company , there the entire team of around 100 members was assembled to have the annual photo shoot. Once the team gathered people started cracking jokes, teasing others, commenting/joking loudly...all this in attempt to create an impreson.

Some people are always up-to-date with the latest happenings that they spend significant amount of time of their life updating themselves no because they are in need of that knowledge but want to be the first to convey the news to their friends and there by gaining an impreson.

Next the question comes, why do we want to impress? What reaction will the impreson cause?

For BioPsychic Details refer this link.

As per some studies:

"We found that these seemingly different kinds of rewards, a good reputation versus money, are biologically coded by the same neural structure, the striatum," says Dr Norihiro Sadato of Japan's National Institute for Physiological Sciences in Okazaki.
"This provides the biological basis of our everyday experience that personal reputation is felt as rewards," Sadato says

“By means of praising each other, our business groups as well as our workers, schoolchildren, relation among families of schoolchildren and teachers becomes active in all areas.Neuroscience is learning how important it is to communicate and praise each other. Communication and praising others will create smiles. It is the secret to rejuvenation and stop aging.”

Conveying people that we are really impressed by their actions, will make people do anything. Succesful Impreson needs more impreson's coming on the way.

Last week, when i had to work a saturday i was furious and working in anger, but when my manager praised for my work i was so happy that he got impressed by my actions, when asked can you work on sunday as well, i happily said yes!! True :-)

So guys, praise everyone but keep in mind that too much of anything including "praise" loose its value. Praise selectively and with in the context.

Our Trip report: Kasmir, Delhi and NCR

Please visit my friends vamsi's blog for our trip report of kashmir, delhi and NCR. Vamsi has beautifully written this piece, short and sweet with more pics.

Enjoy!!!

Nature, Friends, Strangers, monsoons and Rain all the way

Couple of months ago we went for a bike and hiking trip to kemmangundi in the chikmagalur district of karnataka, nearly 50kms from chikmagalur town with 15 kms of ghat road.We went on 4 bikes from bangalore, 2 bikes with pillions and 2 bikes with luggage tied to it.On the way shyam withdrawed cash from the ATM, he was only one carrying cash and we all were just going along.

We reached kemmangundi in the dark and it was raining heavily we had near skid and fall driving on the crazy mud and ghat roads.All dark clouds came out of nowhere and were lashing rain, it was really tough to drive uphill in that narrow muddy roads.Our worst fear was once of our friend shiva was driving a "passion" in both feeling and bike make, we had 2 apache's so we were better.

Once up we realized that one bike was missing which we thought was ahead of us, so we didnt care to check them at the back. It was shyam and narendrans bike which they took all the way to chikmagalur, due to some miscommunications. Now no way they can return to kemmangundi as its dark and road is not good, after some hot debates and blame game we decided that they will spend the night in chikmagalur and we will spend night in kemmangundi and catchup next day morning.

But you know what is the funny thing we had no cash, we just had 200 change and we need to get a hotel, food and some stuff and spend the entire night there.Here we were left in a remote village with hardly single digit homes and no cash, ATM r u kidding? so, this article is about how we survived that day.

First we enquired about the food near a shop,always food first :-) they told it will close in an hour.Now we had to find a room and eat the food within an hour else stay hungy.Finally,after some enquiring and searching We found some rooms at the top@600/per room, the hotel guy was man named "puttappa avare", we took him aside, myself and mani explained the situation to him and convinced him that our friends down will be back tomorrow morning and then we can pay him the money.I am not quite sure what made him listen to us may be "kannada" or visible survival insticts and fear.We were ready to promise anything and everything.This made my long held belief even more concrete, i always think "if its a human, we can convince him in any matter and in any way [sama, dana, bedha and danda==Chanakya]".

Decent Room 600 bucks

What a view and rain

Now as room is set, we need to find food. Again our very own "puttappa avare" came to the rescue, we went to the food shop ordered all we want including some soft drinks, and told that "puttappa avare" will take care of the bill. They called him and he assured them with so much confidence that even we were
shocked.So that night we had good food, warm sleep.

Now that we had survived the night, then we chaged the mode from "anyhing and everything" to "lets think abt it". Instead of our guys coming all the way up and gng down immediately [shyam was having a back pain, so we thought it didn't worth all the effort up the hill], they will get cash and meet at an intermediate point.Mani found a co-tamil guy called jagan anna, and spoke to him regarding the issue. He suggested us to meet at some village down the hill, and asked us to deliver the cash to his uncle there, once he recieves the cash jagan will deliver the cash to "puttappa avare" who in turn have to give the cash to shops locally.Again out of blue "puttappa avare" agreed to this plan, man he trusts too much.

So, next morning after having a stomachful breakfast at ganesha locally(it was ganesh chaturthi) which is tamarind rice with sundal/senagalu myself and prasad went to Z-point, lazy shiva and mani stayed down.After that we started down and met our guys and delivered the cash to the jagans uncle and all process worked well.

Eating tamarind rice with sundal courtesy ganhes

Top of Z-Point

Reunion and cheers

Our Missing bike and guys

Our Transporters

But can you imagine this in 21st century, such a trust where we even doubt if a person is too good to us, why is he so good to us? Good to see Men like "puttappa avare" and jagan are till there and they did this without any expectation.Once i couldnt even convince the bus conductor that i have 1 rupee short of the ticket, i had to get down the bus walk to next stop and boarded another bus.

It was really a fantastic experience.

Seen Someone After A Long Time!!!???

A Good Post Lifted from wordsofribbon, Thanks bro.

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Seeing Someone After A Long Time

Sometimes you see a person that you have not seen in years or are longing to meet the person eagerly and the greeting or reaction is poor. You may have shared intense, happy, sad, fighting or restless moments together. That person may be the most valuable person to you, you may love him a lot .However, when people move on or move away, they change. They put their energy into so many other things. They probably forgot that you exist. For anyone to be successful, they have to continuously progress.

We get hurt sometimes but we have to get over it. Sometimes, some time away may be able to garner you more respect from others. It makes no sense to waste time wondering about people's reactions anyway. We need to focus on improving ourselves and our interactions with others. We will only get respect when we give respect.

Also, sometimes we think that people are cold but they may just be preoccupied. Who really has the time to wonder what everyone is thinking. We have so many challenges facing today that we need to stay centered.

chaitanya tk
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