Renew Vs. New

In the past 50 years Life's changing rapidly, lifestyles are evolving daily with new trends.Lets have a look at understanding major attitude changes that govern our lifestyle and can provide us a solution to the emotional problems we are facing today.

This is the first article in the upcoming series:

Renew Vs. New:

In the olden days if an item was not functioning well, then people try to repair it and make it work.For eg. if a fan is not working properly, they would try repair the thing with an electrician. Their attitude was to preserve the things, in spite of the condition in which it is. They try to work on it and make it better.

On a similar note, if a relationship is under strain they try to "repair".

But today we are looking at the generation, we always look for a "new" one, instead of repairing the old one.For eg: if a mobile is not functioning, we immediately go for a "new" one, we never try to repair the old one. The same attitude applies even to relationships.

If a relationship is under strain, we look for another one. that's where we are emotionally weak, we always look for the easiest part.
"Repairing" needs understanding of the underlying issues and finding a way to work around them/fix them. That takes lot of courage, ego and patience.So instead we look out for a simple approach, lookout for a new one and when the new one is not working properly then we repent about the old one.
This leads to lots of emotional issues difficult to tackle with.

So, friends never give up. However bad may be the relationship we can always repair it.

Check the below fantastic video for a complete cycle of a relationship.

Ugly Truth: "No Change"

After reading the title, if your thinking about the money then this article suits you.
There was a famous story of a man who has no other job but to

hunt for food,
cook,
eat and
find a good shelter to sleep.The so called "maslow's" hierarchy of needs.

The entire life was made of these activities.There was no goal in this life than to achieve these.

If you are thinking of "stone age early man" you are wrong. The same applies to men from all ages, except a few. So, whats the purpose of life then and now???

"No Change",

only difference is 
We do jobs for food,
cooking has become more lavish
eating has become more
shelters have become bigger.


And once a man has achieved all of these, he is not satisfied yet.He started dreaming of more of the same kind, So that he is much above the others.In this process he became more selfish and meaner. Instead of following maslow's hierarchy which states that once a person achieves all the above, he tries to look for more meaningful things like social responsibility, spiritual awareness, pursuing one's passions etc..he enters  a loop which demands more food,shelter, etc....


So are we going to continue this for the up coming ages also??
                                    (or)
Are we going to head instead in pursuing our passions, thinking about the purpose of life, living our dreams,

"u" decide because "u" can only decide.

And that my friend is the "ugly truth".

Ugly Truth: Its Impossible to have the same feeling on something/someone

 What is Feeling???

In psychology, the word is usually reserved for the conscious subjective experience of emotion
In Simple words, The sense by which the mind, through certain nerves of the body, perceives external objects, or certain states of the body itself .

It is the beauty of human brain which generates these feelings which in turn govern our life. So is it possible to have the same feeling through our life?No matter what the circumstances/situations, can we still have the same feeling towards something/someone???

When we are happy we tend to feel the surroundings/people surrounded to be friendly and when we are angry every word/every move seems to be attacking ???

We love something/someone today and love it for years all of a sudden we lose interest in it and feel bored then after some time we again gain interest in it .........feeling is always variable depending on numerous factors it is impossible to have a constant feeling towards someone/something for entire life, feeling is intended to change.

The things/people around wont change the situations and our feeling towards them will change.
So friends always be open share and change the feelings do not force feelings it will make them still volatile....................and that my friends is the ugly truth of the day.

Creative thinking: An Instrospect

Its very rare to witness a person thinking/Doing something out-of-the-ordinary.But when he does that all remaining people will think internally that "Yaar, it looks simple but why didn't we realize/done it before".It goes with the famous saying from conan doyle "Elementary, Watson". to put it in another way,"When you hear the solution the problem becomes simple".

So why is it many of us are unable to find the solution to lot of problems and when we hear the solution we feel "yeah, i knew this before". We use some mathematics to find out why??

The way people think depends of lots of factors for eg: the environment which they have grown, their IQ,knowledge they possess etc....

A survey will reveal that "95% of the people think in a similar grounds always, only 5% people think differently i.e., famous known as out-of-the-box/lateral thinking ".

95%---> Step-By-Step Thinking
5%---> Creative/Lateral/out-of-the-box thinking (Terms coined by Edward De Bono)

Lets put it the other way, Every person switches between these ratios most of the times he thinks like the remaining 95% only some times when the situation demands he thinks in the lines of the other 5%.

We need to ensure that we always think in terms of the 5% so that we can excel life and be an inspiration to others.
These people in the 5% are every powerful they can change the entire 95% people, so please encourage those who fall into that category.

"A sheep herd lead by one lion is far better than a lion herd led a sheep".

Ugly Truth: Ego grows with Seniority

Friends,

 At any point of time in our life we all must have faced this:

 When talking to a senior guy, if we explain something very basic to him, he immediately says "yeah, i read this long time ago at beginning of my career, good that you have refreshed it.". Even though he doesnt even know what that basic thing means, he simply cant accept the fact that in all his experience he has missed this trivial basic point.

Ego my friends, is like a two sided sword, if we use it in a controlled way we can conquer the world else we will destroy the world not only thou but someone else's also.

And that my friends is the Ugly Truth.............

The Ugly Truth: Series starts Today

Impressed and Inspired from the movie "Ugly Truth" i want to start this series which discusses about the things happening around us boldly,frankly most importantly the ugly truth.

Friends you are welcome to share all the ugly truths which you have come across in various areas like IT,Personal life, etc,,,,whatever...........

Trek: Day1

We wake up early in the morning, had a semi-hot shower and dressed up for the trek ahead with all the anxiety and eagerness in head we headed for the trek agency office, the walk to the agency made us sweat with all the luggage and layered clothing.We were thinking abt how would our trek in that hot sun???

After depositing the luggage we met our guide made the payment then left for breakfast.Our guide rony was young along with his friend kannu, we were happy as we can have a good rapport as they are of same age as ours.We had a stomach ful breakfast, then boarded the vehicle which will take us to the starting point of the trek.During the journey our guide was explaining about the weather conditions,his village and how the trek is going to be.On the way we had traveled past our guide's village "jagatsukh" where we bought some snacks and coll drinks.The shop owner was rony's cousin, hmmm great to live in a village where you know everyone of them personally.

After that we crossed a bridge and was dropped after gaining some height.There we met our horse men-Vinod Thakur, he was from the same village.Finally we started our trek initial trek was through a small village the path was consisting of steps, we had a great difficulty after some time, we were sweating a lot and were gasping for breath.Then we realized we had the wrong clothing for the wather adn terrain we were in, so we removed all the extra clothing and teared down to a cotton t-short and a jean.

Then slowly we gained speed as we are getting accustomed ourselves for the trek, the previous day hike did not help much but well, its a start.After wlakign for more 2hrs we reached near to the campsite then there was a decision whether to go for primary campsite which is more 1:30 trek ahead and there no water trails on the way or switch to secondary camp site which is 15 mins walk, as its first day we decided to go for secondary.

Finally, we reached our first campsite during the trek, we pitched our tent and got in for soem rest.Meanwhile our guide cum cook started preparing some snacks and tea for us.After a short nap we were in kitchen tent enjoying the ambiance with snacks.

Later we found some villagers on their way to hunt down a bear which is causing trouble for the by messing with their cows, the bear was somewhere in our surroundings and they planned to track it over night and  kill him.

After some times we saw a beautiful sunset through the trees, it was a fantastic ambiance, much more to come ahead during the trek.Later in the night we had our dinner and were involved in a discussion with the crew traversing various topics...listening to the local stories.

We requested rony to arrange for a camp-fire as it was becoming cold as the night progresses, he was very good quickly he collected some big sticks and we  had a warm and beautiful camp fire.After prolonged discussions on various topics we slept late in night thinking of the days trek ahead and whether can we make it or not????


Our first night in the mountains was splendid, serene.........